*I apologize in advance for the seriousness of these thoughts, but I have to share them somehow and Nathan's working tonight.*
Here is a poll question posted on the military significant others (SO) forum I am a part of:
If your S/O or babies father wants to keep the baby, and you don't. Should he have the right to fight the abortion and make you carry it and give it to him?
What has my thoughts swirling tonight are the responses. 42% of people voted no. Here are some of the comments to justify their prochoice and anti-male views:
~"Her body, her choice."
~"Pregnancy is a "biological inequity."
~"However, only one of them is pregnant. Just her. It's not fair at all. "
~"Hey pro-lifers: If a man can force a woman to carry a pregnancy to term then he can also force her to have an abortion.Would you feel comfortable knowing that a man could force you to have an abortion against your will?"
I feel there are two issues here: 1)the obvious abortion one, and 2)society's (and particularly women's) view of men. My answer to #1 is that the ability to create life is a sacred one given to us by our Heavenly Father. If the pregnancy was unplanned and you are unable to care for the child, give him/her up for adoption. Yes, pregnancy and childbirth is painful, especially if you did not plan on having a child and are not keeping it. However, actions have consequences. You chose to have sex, you got pregnant, now it's time to face the music. Consequences are how we learn from our mistakes and grow. Yes, they hurt, but they are also necessary. And that is something that our permissive society has forgotten.
#2 is different in that it is the "forgotten" issue. No one on the forum is talking about it, and I've never really heard it brought up before when discussing things like this. It's interesting to me that in the question, the man was called a "significant other" and yet many of the women commenting don't find him significant enough to consult with on the matter. I have gone on many an "anti-man" rant, especially in my single years. And now that I'm married, there are character traits that brain research shows are clearly male that drive me nuts. (And I have female characteristics that drive Nathan nuts, so I feel I am on safe ground in saying this!)
That being said, I believe that men and women were created with differences on purpose. It is divine design, and when you combine two people those differences fit together like puzzle pieces and make us whole. This is one of those times when I realize how much religion has given me. It is such a blessing to know what I know. Otherwise, I believe I would be just as adrift and lost in the lies as some of these people.
6 years ago
Well, it won't be a shocker that I agree with you completely on all points. Pregnancy is a consequence, not a choice. However, in this world, void of personal accountability, it's no surprise there are so many who fail to see it that way.
ReplyDeleteOne other point I'd like to make I stole from my favorite politician, Ron Paul (yes, there is a politician who I trust!). Being libertarian, many would think Ron Paul would be pro-life. However, he is now. Before his political career, he was an OB-GYN and as part of his training he was required to watch an abortion of a 6-month-old baby. He said it was the most horrible thing to watch. He said they extracted the baby and threw it in a trash receptacle and tried to ignore it while it struggled to breathe. His stance is that one of the main functions of the Constitution is to protect a person's right to life. The solution to the question of abortion is to define life at conception. Then, abortion would be out of question, except in extraneous circumstances, like rape or major danger to the mother, just as self defense is an acceptable reason to take another's life. Anyway, I know we, as a society, are too far down the path of immorality to ever make that change, but I am still a proponent of it.
I agree with you except for when rape occurs. In that instance, it really is the right of the woman to decide. Personally, my opinion is that they should make sex education more available in the school systems so that there is a less likely chance that unwanted pregnancies occur.
ReplyDeleteGrowing up in my school the teachers weren't even allowed to say the word condom. The only thing that was allowed to be taught was abstinence. I had several people that I knew that were sexually active, and I am pretty sure that they didn't have a heart to heart about it with their parents.
All I have to say is that it is sad to hear the story above, and I am glad that they won't let you have an abortion anymore if the baby is in the second trimester.
Christina--I agree that there are a FEW exceptions to the rule. Life is never that simple, even if we want it to be! :) For the vast majority though, I feel like people need to learn to act like adults and accept the consequences of their actions. (That's assuming that adult = responsible person, and I'm not sure that's the case anymore!)
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