You know what I hate? I hate how every gathering with women involves birthing stories and parenting stories. I decided tonight that I wish I was meaner. Because then I could give my snark free reign and butt in with what I'm thinking. "That is a crazy story! You want to hear what happened with my labor and delivery? Ooooooh, wait a minute! I don't have a story! You know why? I don't have any children. Yes, I know I'm Mormon. Yes, I have been married for almost seven years. Thank you for looking at me like I belong in a zoo. Thank you for having a conversation in my presence that I cannot contribute to in any way. That makes me feel just WONDERFUL!!!"
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6 years ago
I'm so sorry...I've probably done that a time or two. I'll be more aware. Glad you ranted!! It's needed at times.
ReplyDeleteI hate that, too! The number of times I've had the same conversation with people about epidurals is ridiculous. THE SAME CONVERSATION. Giving birth is a big event, but come on! Let's talk about SOMETHING else!
ReplyDeleteAmanda, it might do you some good to just make different friends that are in the same life situation that you are in. Mom's talk about that stuff because 80% of their life is based around their kids, and the other 20% is taken up with spouses, sleeping and a few moments for themselves. I am sure that you, at times, have talked about things that no one else in the group can relate with...possibly the military life. People listen to you out of a sign of respect for what you are going through. If they are having a hard time with a kid or want to share one of the stories of their birthing experience, and you don't want to sit back and listen, then leave. Find another conversation. Enter a different group. To ask everyone to be more considerate towards your feelings in all situations is not only impractical...it's just not going to happen. What you are asking is for people to tip toe around you (whether that was your intent or not). In the end, no one will be happy. You can't control what other people do, but you definitely can control your reaction to it.
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